During my early morning ritual of coffee and reading, I came across this post in my Facebook feed.
The podcast lasts all of ten minutes, so feel free to give it a listen so you can follow along.
The first thing that irked me about this podcast was how the two hosts (one of which is an Equinox trainer lol) think they’re dropping some serious knowledge on woman. Orly? There are men out there who use women for sex and lie to get it? I’m woozy from a case of the vapors. Catch me when I faint!
There’s no advice in this podcast. It’s two douchey, shallow guys taking pleasure in “educating” women about how stupid they are. They perpetuate antiquated gender roles (“Women are relationship creators!”) and laugh at how their brothers manage to bamboozle women over and over. I love – absolutely love – how the trainer thinks he’s different. He’s not like other trainers. He’s a cool trainer. He’s all about building self-esteem. Wygant’s contempt for women is palpable. His anger towards women who wouldn’t deign to fuck him is unmistakable. He and the trainer take glee in slut-shaming women for wearing revealing clothes and posting bikini photos, basically – well, no, blatantly – saying, “You’re asking for it. If you didn’t dress like such a slut, guys wouldn’t use you.”
These two are conflating their own seething resentment with “radical honesty.” They want to piss women off. They’re mocking women by pretending to help them. But, hey, when he gives men advice? Well, it has some merit.
He’ll take the time to offer productive advice to men. When it comes to women, he condescends to and berates them. But, yeah, definitely take dating advice from him. Ignore the fact that he hates women.
Take a listen to this:
Once again, the man is depicted as solid and honorable. The woman? Not so much. The women looking for a sugar daddy arrangements are prostitutes. What does that make the guys? Oh that’s right…johns. Oh, no! They’re just socially awkward. Or too busy for a girlfriend. Reason, reasons, reasons. Maybe the woman is putting herself through law school. Or trying to support a child. Maybe the woman has reasons, too? Nope. According to Wygant she’s just a lazy whore with no hustle. Except, she’s totally got hustle because she managed to get you to pay her to spend time with you.
I love – LOVE! – how he depicts the men as poor suckers being taken advantage of by these cunning women. The men have no agency. They’re being taken to the cleaners. They’re VICTIMS! Not once does Wygant even suggest the men like – nay, prefer! – the arrangement they have with these women. Why? Because he hates women. And yet he has flocks of females cooing and gushing in the comments of his Facebook page. Notice how, in this podcast, all the examples he and his guest give of rude behavior are by women. I guess guys never ignore people because they’re too busy fiddling with their phones?
This is toxic masculinity in its purest form. These podcasts are nothing but men who are unsuccessful with women spewing their rage under the guise of giving advice.